Initially, life after uni is little awkward blip. You haven’t graduated yet so technically speaking you’re still a student.
However, once Graduation comes and goes (rather quickly), you’re left in a constant state of confusion and comparisons. As if the non stop questioning from family and friends regarding your next steps weren’t enough, your parents start to bang on about how your “age-mates” (who have also just graduated) have managed to bag their “dream job”.
It seems like every other Facebook status is centred around new jobs and new milestones, all of which leaves you questioning when your time will come. If like me you have virtually no idea what career you’re looking for, this period of time seems to be the longest.
I remember getting rejection email after rejection email, some from Jobs I didn’t even recall applying to. It got to a point where I just gave up. I had a part time waitressing job on the side, so I picked up a few more hours there and just decided to live out the rest of my days amongst hot plates and coffee cups…This was short lived.
Customers started to ask what I was doing on the side, whether or not I was actively looking for Jobs, my future career plans. I could not escape the questions, which in some way forced me to be honest with myself and come up with a plan. (My plan included running away to a different country but we will come back to that another time haha).
I think what I wanted to say, is that just because you haven’t reached your goals or achieved certain milestones, it does not mean that some day you wont. Talking from experience it is extremely hard to overcome the comparisons but just try to remember that God’s timing is the best timing. It hasn’t happened yet because it’s not meant to. One day you’ll be able to look back and realise that the wait just made you that more appreciative of what’s to come 🙂
There’s a lot of things that spring to mind when I think about this topic, which makes it a pretty touch question to answer.
I don’t want to get too deep and emotional on here so I’ll go with something basic for now.
I miss my childhood.
Although I can’t remember much of it, I do recall the general feeling of being carefree and happy.
If only I could go back in time and just relive those moments and learn to appreciate them a bit more.
As the saying goes, “You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
When we get older we lose those seemingly childhood qualities and forget what it feels like to actually enjoy and love life.
I would say that a problem I have had & still have to a certain extent, is to do with self confidence (well the lack of).
I’ve aways been a reserved person but this was highlighted even more when I went to Uni. I found it quite hard to make friends & push myself out of my comfort zone, which in turn led to me being rather lonely.
This is probably when the self confidence issues started to creep in.
When you are alone 95% of the time, it becomes so easy to get trapped in your own head & be consumed by self destructive thoughts.
There would be times where I wouldn’t leave my room for days due to crippling social anxiety & the fear of being judged on my appearance.
I still find it quite hard to socialise with people, especially those I don’t know but I’m not as bad as I used to be.
The first thing I would do is buy 3 houses.
1 for my parents, 1 for myself and the last for a little project I’ve always wanted to work on.
For the longest time I have always had a desire to help the homeless. After watching a documentary (can’t remember what it’s called), I realised just how hard it is for the homeless to get back on their feet. Even a little thing like having an address would help out a lot.
So with the third house, the perfect scenario would be to have a place where the homeless (4 at any one time during the year), would be able to have a place to call their own. This will in turn provide an actual address, enabling the residents to apply for jobs further gaining some independence.
I doubt I would have any money left after that!
If I do however, I would split the rest between investing into my own business and travelling to all the countries I have yet to discover.
For this, I would have to say my little brother.
We have a 12 year age gap but he is honestly my best friend. To watch him grow and mature over this somewhat of a short time span has been fascinating in itself.
He has this amazing ability to crack a joke at any given moment, just to cheer someone up. For a 9 year old he has emotional intelligence way beyond his years & is always seeking out ways to help others, even when he is unhappy himself.
He has so many qualities that I wish I possessed but that just makes me love him even more ❤️