Book Review: Triggers

Book reviews are an old friend, that I haven’t had the chance to visit in a while but constantly I’m reminded of them as the time passes.

Those who know me can attest to my skepticism for both self help and second hand books (both of which this book happened to be), yet I found myself drawn to the electric blue and shimmering gold cover and decided to take it home and give it a read.

Granted it took me a little over 2 years to actually read it, but we got there in the end.

First impressions

My initial thoughts on this book based on both the cover and the blurb, led me to believe that this book would enable me to identify triggers in a bid to initiate positive change within my personal life.

Within the first couple of chapters it dawned on me that this book was in fact geared towards those in high seniority leadership positions. Whilst I couldn’t relate to the examples outlined, there was one thing I read that stuck with me – the concept of ‘daily questions’.

Daily questions

Daily questions can be seen as an alternative to resolutions. This works by setting ourselves a specific set of goal orientated questions which we aim to review on a weekly basis. They key thing to note here is that that each question is scored 0-10 and starts off with ‘did I try my best to…” e.g: Did I try my best to eat healthily?

The simple change of phrasing, triggers a behavioural and emotional response, as we now feel that our goals are truly in our hands and require effort on our part to score 10’s across the board.

If we are continually scoring 0 on our daily questions, one could argue that we should just remove the specific goal in question, as clearly it means nothing to us if we can’t even be bothered to try our best to work towards it.

Trying our best doesn’t even have to mean going the full mile and actually eating healthily. It can manifest itself in smaller actions including, thinking of or even planning a healthy meal for later on in the week.

Whilst I wouldn’t recommend this book, unless of course you find yourself compelled to read it – I would definitely suggest looking more into the daily questions as I have found it to be pretty useful as of late.

Let me know your thoughts and if you have any books you would recommend me to read 🙂

2020

2020 has been a difficult year for a lot of us, from dealing with the loss of family members to navigating life during a pandemic (which in itself comes with issues, both mental and physical). No one could have predicted how this year would have unfolded, yet here we are with no other option but to face reality. When will it end is the question that escapes everyones lips, the question that no one has the answer to.

I didn’t expect my blogging hiatus to end on such a doom & gloom note (sorry). I’ve pretty much abandoned this blog for so long, I no longer know how to write. Hopefully this is something I can work on in the near future but for now you’ll have to enjoy the rambling nonsensical workings of my brain.

What I really wanted to say is that we don’t know the direction/journey that life will take us on. If you’re anything like me, there will be resolutions that will remain unmet, but we can’t let that define us. This year has been too mentally taxing for us to then dwell on the things that we can’t change. All we can do is pick ourselves up and try again.

My prayer for everyone reading (and not reading ) this, is that 2021 will be kind to you, I pray that all your dreams, manifestations, prayers come into fruition.

God bless, always x

Black Lives Matter digital art protest

Thoughts & feelings

I’ve never thought that I, a black woman was ever educated enough to speak on topics that affect the black community.

I felt as though I could never speak on my experiences, let alone anyone else’s.

Coming from an area where I was the majority to now being the minority, in a class where I could count the number of black people on one hand, was a culture shock to say the least. This was the first time I had ever been made to feel different… as though I didn’t belong.

It was the micro aggressions and the snide comments that people didn’t expect you to hear, that set me into a state of paranoia.

Paranoia that followed me through my late teens, the paranoia that fuelled my social anxiexty and depression.

The sad thing is that I’m not alone in saying this….

How many killings and injustices does it take for the world to hear our voices, for the world to hear our pain, for the world to finally hear that we matter, that Black lives matter.

It feels like change is in the air, performative or not, people are finally hearing us. Only God knows if change will actually come but I hope for the sake of our future, past & present that it does.

below is a link to various petitions that you can sign & causes you can donate to. Please help in whatever way shape or form you can.

https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/#donate

Also if you know of any Black owned businesses or resources that can further serve as educational purposes please link below 🙂

Just checking in…

Just wanted to check in with all my travel lovers, how are we all doing in this lockdown period?

I for one am grateful to be experiencing life within the four corners of my room. Although this is a change from my regular day to day, I’ve been given so much time to reflect on the colourful experiences I’ve had on my adventures.

This time last year I was on my first ever solo trip in Oslo, my fifth country of the year. If you want to read about what I got up to you can check out my Oslo blog post here. For those more visually inclined, I also have a youtube video which I will link below:

My prayers are with everyone right now 🙏🏾

Yes we might not be able to explore the world right now, but we can however explore our hearts and minds.

What were you doing this time last year & what do you hope to be doing this time next year?

God bless & keep safe,

Adina

What defines success?

Success is relative.

However, the society we live in today shares the ideological viewpoint, that success equates to having infinite resources; including money, cars etc.

Which in turn reminds me of successful by Drake and Trey Songz:

“I want the money, money and the cars, cars and the clothes, the hoes… I suppose…. I just want to be, I just want to be successful”

Since when was success defined by these terms?

In “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” Deepak Chopra defines success as;

“The continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals,”

Ok, so we all know that have disputed to whether or not happiness exists , lets say for arguments sake that it does. This then implies that order to be successful, we need to be happy and extrapolate that internalised feeling. Money can’t buy happiness (or so i’m told), so if happiness equates to success but money doesn’t feed into happiness, then logically money x success shouldn’t be a thing.

Anyway, the point I wanted to make was this:

Success isn’t and should in no way be related to anything of monetary value. As long as you are comfortable within yourself and the path that you are on, then that my friend is the definition of  success.

“If you carefully consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience,” he writes in the book, “you will find your definition of success.”